NSFW: Skype, sex, and the sex industry
OK, all the sex stuff's a been a bit much.
But I wanted to let you get a feel for yourself.
We've never really covered Skype in the bedroom. So, in the run up to this weekend's Valentine's Day, I've been sharing first hand accounts from twitter and the blogosphere about Skype and sex.
I wanted to show the healthy, relationship-positive side to Skype and sex. So I went and found it.
In Skype Sex Will Turn Software Hard a college student explains how Skype video supports her long distance relationship with her boyfriend. And in The Dangers of Skype-Sex.. a true story a woman laughs about a hangnail injury during video sex with more casual lovers. Emiliey checks with two budding lovers did u have skype sex? because she heard a rumor.
When the phrase "phone sex" becomes "skype sex," you're hearing a cultural phenomenon go mainstream.
This is great for Skype.
Nearly every technology gets used for sex when it becomes
- cheap or free,
- reliable, and
- many people have access.
Skype is far past that tipping point.
What attracts lovers to Skype are the very things that make Skype attractive to a grandmother vidding her grandkids. Free, high audio quality, video quality at full screen, chat and presence for arranging calls, agile bandwidth management, privacy, and interruption management.
The bedroom is the last part of the home to get technology, and Skype is winning its way through that door.
Downsides.
- Skype Spam. I'm tired of sex spam in Skype chats, IM adverts for webcam sex sites. Beyond the rude interruptions of SPIM (messaging spam), they cheapen the world's perception of my favorite conversation channel.
- Skype Prime limits. Skype forbid selling "adult, sexual or pornographic" services through its Skype Prime terms of service. Skype's own brand is cute and wholesome. Prime's beta protects that image and avoids criminal issues by keeping the service family friendly.
- Harassment. Women often "decline to state" their sex in Skype profiles. This sometimes prevents unwanted attention. Dina Mehta's landmark report, SkypeMe Eve, showed the dramatic difference between the number of stranger approaches received by men and women.
Opportunity.
I occasionally follow adult industry information technology. In many respects they lead the Internet by a year or two.
- They drove the inventions of payment systems for phone calls and for Internet commerce, long before Skype Prime, PayPal and Amazon.
- They drove innovation in video distribution and cheap video production back in the VHS days and later in the early webcam and pre-torrent download days.
- They pioneered bandwidth management and traffic analysis.
If you talk with young adult performers today, so many of them have sysadmin skills and talk about Ruby on Rails and CDNs and SEO and all the other geekery that boosts the right traffic, keep operations up, and keep site costs down.
Skype's technology doesn't offer the right connections for integration into today's commercial sex services. Skype would need to offer:
- Pseudonymity. Privacy is important in commercial sex services.
- Voice, video, and IM gateways. To pipe video between Skype users and the hosted media-stream management systems that route stored and live video.
- Payment system integration. So you can pay, confidentially but reliably, with Skype credits.
Talking dirty pays well, as you'd expect in an US$18 billion industry. I expect to see the Skype network interop with adult businesses as the technologies and markets mature. If landline and mobile phone companies, ISPs, web hosting and payment services do business with adult service providers, why not Skype?
People using Skype for sex among themselves affects the sex industry. It raises expectations for quality and personal engagement. It lowers expectations for cost and redefines speed and convenience of setting up a video call. Perhaps most important: Skype sex is market evidence that adult IT providers trust, spurring entrepreneurship in two-way video chat technology.
Summing up.
So people's love lives are joining the rest of their onlives. And Skype is just the latest utility to bring people closer together. Saint Valentine would be proud that Skype serves Cupid.
Have a lovely Valentine's Day weekend. Skype someone you love.
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